Written by Darian Rene
Life is full of experiences with people and places that can pass us by faster than they came around. In dealings, you may come to feel crazy or unjustified to be stuck over what’s long gone. Over time, these feelings can transition into even bigger heaps of dirt left untended.
For those still following along, I assure you that there’s nothing crazy about this. In fact, many others can relate not only to feeling stuck but also feeling crazy over it. Often times, there’s no friend or family member to tell us what we need to hear, so let’s walk through some points that helped me mentally and emotionally in hopes of leading you to clarity on the ability we all have to move on!
1. You See Emotions as Something to Fight.
It’s not hard to see how we’re often programmed to believe our emotions are something we must battle. While various mediums, like motivational speeches, can be appreciated, they may also influence us in counter-productive ways.
Our brains are wired to push us toward the convenient route, which often leads to ‘fighting’ or ‘swatting away’ our emotions. However, in doing so, we only predispose ourselves to these feelings returning even harder to deal with. Imagine the growth that comes with acknowledging what you feel and doing the harder thing: truly facing those emotions.
2. You’re Allowing Your Emotions to Rule Your Logic.
This is a choice we may all be too familiar with. I realize how much of a task it can seem to change this, but recognizing it is already a significant step forward.
Although we are emotional beings, the basis of reality typically stays the same. You will meet new people and have unique experiences that may cause you to fall in love or feel broken. Most importantly, you will learn from these encounters. Whether you are affected positively or negatively will be determined by your responses. With this understanding, the weight we carry from our pasts can feel lighter as we realize there’s so much more to life.
The goal isn’t to enjoy everything like it’s your last, but to embrace it as if it’s your first, because logically, there’s much more to see, feel, love, and lose.
3. Depriving Yourself of Much-Needed Space.
It’s essential to answer both the need for alone time and time with others. Too much of either can be detrimental, especially if spent in unproductive ways.
Often, your friends may not be ready for productive activities like hitting the gym, going book shopping, or enjoying consistent walks in the park, and that’s okay. It’s important to lead your own hobbies and take charge. Find the curiosity and brightness within yourself, then cultivate it. This requires taking time away from others to hear yourself and discover what you can learn.
If you’re struggling to find time for this, could it be that you’re not giving yourself enough space?
4. Pedestals
Putting things on pedestals may hurt your process more than you realize! This was once my greatest hindrance. To do so is to love blindly, ignoring the fact that nothing on this Earth is without flaw. If we have made mistakes, it should be easy to understand that everything else is no different, right?
Perhaps we can practice humility and recognize that love is a step-by-step process in truth.
Closing Thoughts
Letting go is never easy, but like many things, if we struggle, changing our approach or perspective can help.
If there’s anything on this list you feel I missed, don’t hesitate to share your thoughts.
And always remember to like or share if this resonated with you!
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